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i want to be happy and forget about my problems,i also want to increase my faith in Allah and become a good muslim.
please help me.
Thanks, hope to hear from you.
I will email you dear sister, insha’Allah.
I need help I’m going through depression, please email me asap, 🙁 I’d me more than happy.
I will email you today insha’Allah. If you don’t receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
As salamualaikum I’m facing strress anxiety unable to sleep can you please contact me it will be great help I’m unable to find a good counsellor
I have emailed you 🙂
In response to problems that I had, my prayer has not been regular, I am trying to get back into praying regularly. I waould like some counselling to ensure I dont fall back into the non-praying mode and how to actively seek forgiveness for past lapses.
Dear Bilikis,
Thank you for your honest and sincere comments. If you can, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. I will also try to email you. Insha’Allah I can provide some counseling to improve your life and prayers.
Salam sister am going through anxiety, I think negatively, imaginations is what is going through my mind, how do I get my iman back, I easily get scared and a prolong imagination please help me think positively.
Walaikum as Salam dear sister
I understand that you’re going through a lot of Anxiety and negative thinking right now.
I encourage you to do three practices right now that will reduce your anxiety insha’Allah
1. start to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. It should be something that is fun for you and makes you sweat.
2. Meditate for at least 10 minutes per day. Meditation is an amazing cure for anxiety and is extremely easy. All you do is sit in a quiet place and close your eyes and then make your mind busy with the present sounds going on around you. When you have a thought you just redirect your mind back to the present sounds around you. This helps you to become more of a leader of your mind. I encourage you to do some more Internet research about meditation and its benefits.
3. Lastly, please keep a daily journal in which you write down your thoughts and feelings. This will increase your self awareness which is so important. Also in this journal every day write down things that you’re thankful for, so this is like a gratitude journal as well as a feelings journal.
Are you sleeping OK at night dear sister? Often poor sleep is the root cause of our anxiety and mental problems.
Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
As salaam alaikum, I have been so depressed lately. I have not been praying on a regular basis. Please I need help this feeling is not good for me. I have other things going on as well such as health issu es.
I hear your sadness, sister. I will send you an email today Insha’Allah.
Slms Sister
Would you mind sharing your gluten free diet with me, or is there a book I could purchase
Zeenat
Salams dear Zeenat,
I studied the gluten-free diet mainly from the internet. There are many books out there, but I have not read them. I also like the paleo diet. A great website for that is robbwolf.com. The gluten free diet is mainly avoiding wheat flour, wheat pasta, and bread. Best wishes for finding a way of eating that works for you!
Salams sister,
I just want some advice on how to get my teenagers to pray regularly. They used to pray when they were younger,accompany my husband to the mosque. All theyre interested in now is watching movies online,playing games. I feel at my witts end,so helpless,like my advice is falling on deaf ears. Iam really concerned about their iman. We have tried to bring them up in an islamic environment,we spent several yrs in the middle east. plse advise jzk
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister,
Thank you for your beautiful question and efforts for your children. I will also send you an email with more details, but here are some ideas:
1. Talk to your kids about Allah (swt), about why we love Allah (swt), and why we pray 5 times a day. When we sincerely love Allah (swt), we are more motivated to obey Him and pray to Him. For example, explain that we pray in order to show our gratitude to Allah (swt) for everything He has blessed us with. Explain that our prayers are a protection from harm in this life as well as the next life. Explain that prayers cleanse us of our sins. Explain that our prayers give us a break from this fast-paced world and give us a chance to reflect on life more. Try to explain the benefits of prayers. Also explain that doing prayers is extremely important and that we do accrue sins when we miss our prayers. Have a heartfelt family discussion about this issue, but with respect for everyone, not blame.
2. Try to prevent them from playing games/watching movies until they do their prayers. Of course, we don’t want them to dislike doing prayers, but just explain that because you love them you have to set limits so that their spiritual wellbeing is not sacrificed.
3. Try to involve them in Islamic youth groups of some kind. Try to involve them in masjid activities. Being around people of Taqwa helps a lot.
4. You may want to cancel your movie channels or your TV channels altogether. Although this may sound extreme, most movies today take us away from Allah swt and are very harmful for our heart.
Hope this helps dear sister. If you don’t receive an email as well from me, please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salaam,
This is Reminder
1) Study hard about Qur’an and learn its teachings
2)You must study other religions,because when you will study other religions, you can examine the teachings of islam with other religions. and you can get a good reason to follow islam.
3) You must study hard about scientific miracles in the Qur’an , especially this miracle that i made and i posted it on the youtube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JxLB6_FFos&feature=youtu.be
Because when you will understnad that Qur’an is right about science, then your believe on Allah will increase.
I hope these tips will help you….Salaam
JazakAllah khair for your helpful tips 🙂
There is another tip, and that tip is most difficult to follow because it requires time and hard study to boost your eeman.
and that is,
1)Go to google,
2)and search “Contradictions in Qur’an.
And you will get 100’s of contradictions in Qur’an that anti-islamic website posts on their wenbsites. Now, the most strange thing is that , When you will read a contradiction there, you must search the answer of that contradiction. Or you must go to tafseer of Qur’an.
Now the turning point is here, When you will get the answers of all 100’s contradictions,Your belief on Allah will increase. Because you will be sure that there is no contradictions in Qur’an….
JazakAllah sister, thanks to you that you have provided us a good plateform to spread the message of islam.
(If someone want to answer of any contradiction, please contact me on my email address .(Email123786@gmail.com)
SALAAM And GOOD LUCK !
May Allah (swt) bless you for seeking knowledge for His sake and sharing your tips!
“Hidaya” only comes from Allah. , but He wants struggle from us.So whoever struggle to understand His deen, He is a merciful Allah. He will give you Hidaya ,Insha’Allah….
I totally agree, Alhamdulillah.
Sheina I saw you post (dream if the Prophet Mohammed) on youtube please tell me the full story (your entire dream)
Brother I have sent you a facebook message with the story. Bismillah.
Jazak Allah sister …..
Asalaam Walaikum Wa Ramatullahi Wa Barakatuh sister, I’m in need of counselling asap. Please let me know if you are able to help. Jazakhallah Khair.
Wa alaikum As Salam wr wb Sis. Malika, yes, please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. Wa iyaa kum.
Assalamu alaikum sister,
I have been having a lot of anxiety lately about Islam and hell and all of that. I have this fear that what if I Allah (SWT) won’t let me go to Jannah? What if what I’m doing is not good enough for Jannah. Our family we pray, but not five times a day. My dad smokes and he doesn’t fast. We don’t pay zakah, my mom and I don’t wear the hijab. I feel like we are so far from being good muslims. I try to pray more often and I read the Quran and watch islamic videos to strengthen my Iman and I volunteer for good causes, but I feel like I’m not doing enough. Also I really want my parents to strengthen their Imans too. I want my dad to quit smoking and for us all to pray more and pay zakah. I want to tell my parents how I feel but I’m really scared to because we don’t talk about sensitive topics like these in our house.
Every time I think about all of these sins that we are committing it just breaks my heart.
And also may Allah forgive me for saying this but sometimes when I think of death I get this thought that “what if Islam isn’t real? what if Allah doesn’t exist? what if there is no jannah” I know I shouldn’t think this way but I can’t get these thoughts out of my mind.
I’m so scared of death. I feel like life is just flowing right past me so quick and I can’t do anything to stop it. I feel so hopeless.
Please help me.
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wa barakatu dear Sis. Hanah, thank you for your honest comment. I admire your desire to be a better Muslim, MashAllah. I am going to send you an email. If you don’t receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Dear Sister,
ASA
I emailed you above. Please may you help me. I am going through the hardest time of my life.
Please help.
WAS Brother,
I received your email and will get back to you soon insha’Allah. JazakAllah for contacting me.
Selamun aleykum Dear Sister Sheima,
I’m a sister from Turkey and I need to read your books immediately but I don’t know how I can get them. I also need to communicate with you with my e mail address about which steps muslims can take who try to be as conscious as possible while travelling on the roads of our inner worlds and the outside world, the universe, and trying to decode to “Read” the encoded signs, the ayets throughout this life. This is as vital as breathing you know too as you look to the history of humanbeing, and to people all around the world today. It’s because of this need that Allah enabled us to communicate on this page. Thanks Allah for this opportunity. I send my thanks to you Sister Sheima for the profound, important and heart touching information you share with us. I’m waiting for your answer..
Wa alaikukum as salam dear Sister, Thank you for your very kind and wise words. I will send you an email today. My book is available on Amazon.com in both the electronic and hard copy forms. It’s a pleasure to meet you!
Hi Assalamu Alaikkum Warahmathullahi Wabaraqathuhu. I am looking for some advice in my marriage. I am 4 months pregnant and I’m depressed and my husband can’t understand what I am going through. Sometimes the arguments become a fight. I feel really hard to cope as I’m relocate to live with my husband. Pls respond to me soon.
Jazza Allah
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullahi wabarakatatuhu dear sister,
I just sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamu alaykum sister sheima i need some advice about this up coming Ramadan.
Salam. I need your help. Badly. i need someone’s help. E-mailing you my problem, please help.
Life has been very difficult and stressful everyday pretending to be strong like nothing has never happened but inside my world started to crumble it make me scare cause I’m my teens pillar.
Yes a lot of people can relate to what you are saying, ctnira. Feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com if you would like more support insha’Allah.
Assalam alaykum. I am a British Muslim living in Egypt. My Egyptian husband has cancer and hepatitis C, cirrhosis and HE (hepatic encephalopathy) which affects brain function. He was in hepatic coma 2weeks ago. We were fine together as he came out of the coma, he even wanted us to go for umra together. Then a small incident made him think I am his enemy, that I do magic, and he wants to separate me from our 7 children and threatens divorce. I see this as the work of the devil and I seek refuge in allaah with prayer and athkar. Allah is the helper. My children are losing patience and want me to find a solution…I need to understand this illness more so I can help him back to reality…any advice? May Allah reward you, Assalam alaykum.
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sister Susan. I understand that you are going through a difficult time with your husband, who has many health problems and now sees you as an enemy. Yes you are right that shaytan is probably involved in this and that the only help is from Allah (swt). Please continue to pray to Allah (Swt) and call on Him by His Beautiful Names, especially Ya Wadud (The Source of Love). Please refer to some specific duas from my recent article: http://productivemuslim.com/adhkar-to-unlock-barakah/
For more support please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamu alaikum
Iam shaji from india 47 yrs old( male). last one year iam suffering toomuch anxiety disorder. mainly because of fear of death, and fear of health. acutally i have no health related issues, except bp which i got due to bp for the last 6 months. any sad things hearing i will be verymuch tensed and worried. so please help me and give some remodies to overcome for the above.
Walaikum as Salam Br Shaji, I understand that you feel afraid of death and illness. You feel worried when you hear sad things. The best remedy for such problems is to improve your relationship with Allah swt. Please try to pray at the masjid more and ask Allah to help you with these fears. All help is from Allah.
Issue is personal have to discuss one to one only
Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
I want a solution to my problem, i have emailed you a message, i couldnt publish it here so…
I just emailed you back dear sister.
Assalam aleikum ukhty, I need some one to talk to at the earliest preferring a female counsellor, am really in a bad situation and very stressful and depressed, plz email me at the earliest
Walaikum as Salam dear, I tried to send you an email yesterday. Please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Sheima please do reply yo my query too….many thanks
I replied dear sister.
Assallam alaikum
I’ve been in islam almost 2 years now. I’m in a situation whereby I sometimes get confused. I’m married and have two kids,my career is in art. I work for an NGO as a facilitator and office coordinator. I also run a small business which its growth is really slow and I find myself stressing a lot. Today as I’m writing this, I’m feeling so guilty that I’ve sent my child to school sick. My day for family responsibility are finished and sick leave as I was admitted to the hospital not so long ago.
In all this; as much as enjoy my work, these are my frustration:
I’m unable to perfom my prayers regularly.
I get home tired, not able to care for my kids as I want to
I have no choice but to work because my husband earns less and we unable to survive with his salary alone.
I at times feel like job blocks me from doing what is right as a muslim, mother and wife.
The worst is the masjid is not too far but I’m not allowed to attend Jumma and am always questioned about it.
And the other worst is my child who sick and at school now, I just want to cry just thinking about it.
I feel if I can run my own business fulltime I’ll have more flexibility. I’m worried that it may be hard om family as I’m not taking care only of my own but also my mom and my nephews(parents unemployed). but I’m scared to take that chance.
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister Portia. Thank you for your comment and courage in sharing your story. If you can, please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com and then I will try to provide counseling and support insha’Allah.
sir assalamu alaikum i have mailed u please reply me
wa alaikum as salam I have just replied back to you
Salam alikom can you plx help me i am possessif and jalous since my pregnancies i feel really bad lost confidance my husband didnt help me he told reflexions about mt weight and when i see him looking other girls i am really hurt. It is a nightmare . Thanks
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister. I just sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
asalaam walaikum wrwb
I need help Nd I am really confused…. pls email me at earliest possible
Wa alaikum as salam sister, I did email you.
I am greatly depressed
I am sorry to hear that–I sent you an email a few days ago. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalaamu alaikum sister,
I’m feeling depressed and ungrateful at the fact that I am not married and don’t have a job in my field – also that I am living at home with my parents despite the fact that I wanted to live in another country. I should be happy that I started praying and wearing hijab and reading Qur’an and taking classes but I feel isolated and like I miss socializing and being with others and I can’t help but feel like I really don’t want to be in my situation. How can I be more grateful? I have also given up on trying to manage my finances and have accumulated a huge debt. I have no desire to work and have fallen into laziness thinking when I get married my husband will take care of it or I will get a job when I move to live with him even though I have no husband in sight. Help! Thank you
Thank you
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister, thank you for your honest comment. I plan to email you very soon with my thoughts. Feel free to also email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
I am same situation as the above sister Lena. I was doing well in my life, living a simple life in my late 20’s. People would be jealous of me- me always smiling, being kind, having good looks (not bragging), and somewhat a moderate decent job. When I hit my 30’s I lost my job, friends betrayed me secretly getting married and not telling me, plus I can’t find a good potential matches. Basically I feel stuck, no changes, too many life blockages I want to get married soon and have a family as I am not that young anymore. It’s hard to socialize with people when you are being questioned what’s wrong you, how come you are not married, you have good qualities….you still don’t have a permanent established job. I am the exact situation as poster Lena. Please give me guidance. May Allah (swt) reward you for your service.
I have sent you an email dear sister.
Asalam wa Alaykum sister,
Well my situation is i converted to islam in 2011 but i couldn’t really practice my religion due to my job and as the provider for my family i have 5 children and was a single mother for a long time, i met my current husband in 2008 and we have been together ever since we just recently stated living together since 6/2016 and it has been a constant struggle in our relationship my children are not Muslim as i mentioned i converted all my children have moved out except for my younset he is 11 i besically feel like giving up on my marriage i feel so depressed at times and i question my self and my faith islam is about unity family obediance.and mines has fallen apart my childen are not bad they are just culture. I am no saint my self we have been born and raised here it was easy for me to adapt and follow my new religion i was cathlic before i converted and my children and all my family are all Catholic we had always been so united . I dont now what to do anymore i dont pray anymore i feel like im loosing my self there is really no one i can really talk to i feel ashamed to even talk to any of the sister i have isolated my self from everyone. My husband and i argue all the time , i just feel like giving up on our marriage.
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister. Thank you for your comment. I have just sent you an email. If you didn’t receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamu alikum warahmatulillah wabarakatuhu.
Sis i would like to learn islamic psycology to help my family and friends. Can u teach something. May allah accept ur sevice and grant u jannatul firdause ameen
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sister,
Thank you for your comment. Please refer to these videos of mine:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTM-S1YvkDs&t=1287s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRueNFLb-kk&list=PLX6VwlphDnIyhWm0c7VaEZrOk1nWAQjas
Could i discuss something please urgently?
Dear sister, I have sent you an email. Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
aoa sister..need ur guidance relating a few personal issues..have mailed u aswel..would be thankful if u r available
aoa,
I’m going through a problem and it’s causing me anxiety and emotional stress. can i get your help on that ?
Wa alaikum as salam, I understand you are experiencing anxiety and stress due to a problem. Please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com and I will try to provide some support insha’Allah.
Assalamualaikum
Respected Sister, I have sent you an email regarding my troubles and I am in desperate need of guidance. I am hopeful that you will respond.
Walaikum as Salam dear sister, I have emailed you back today.
Salaam
My name is Gaironisa I would like to know if getting married inside prison is it allowed in Islam,kanalla advised me
Walaikum as Salam sister Gaironisa, as long as you have at least 2 witnesses to your marriage then it’s allowed. Best wishes!
Assalamualaikum Wr Wb
I need ypur help. My husband is having an affair but he is not admitting it. I found condoms, pictures and facetime track but he is still not admiting it.
this is my second marriage, i really need to think through it. Please help
Wa alaikum as salam wr wb dear sister, I sent you an email today. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
assalamualikum.. i am addicted to bad things i really need counceling to get my life back on track. please help me to get my life back on track.
I emailed you about my issue please reply asap !!!
I need help !!!!
I emailed you back dear sister.
I am going throght depression anxiety and loniless I want a Islamic guidance and counseling plz help me
I emailed you back to dear sister.
Assalaamu aleikoum dear sister Sheima,
I desperatly need help, counselling, advice about how to cope with a specific personal situation of mine. It makes me depressed, confused and having negative thoughts and ill fellings towards a specific person that is jealous of me. How to deal with a jealous person that is family and lives under the same roof? This person has narcissist traits and has made me sick for so many years.
Jazaaki Allahu khairan
Wa alaikum as salam Sister, I have emailed you just now.
Assalaum Alikum. I have been feeling very irritated, frustrated and sad for pass month. However I do feel like my reasons for that are very silly but I can’t seem to bring myself to be encouraged to do anything. Frankly, I feel quite miserable. I don’t think it’s extremely but I do feel disturbed. I don’t wanna talk to my parents about it and I am really hoping you could help me. May Allah bless you 🙂
Walaikum as Salam dear, I have just sent you an email. You can also email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salam sister
I have sent you an email. Please help me
Sister please help me out.
I think I have emailed you back sister. Looking forward to your reply
I have replied sister.
Thank you so much for your replies sister! Please reply to my new email.
sister please email me i am in need of some advice and help
I have just emailed you dear sister. If you did not receive my email please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Dear Sir/Madam
Salam
I have an issue with my brother–I don’t know if you can help—
I should start at the beginning
Four years ago my brother married a Christian girl who was non- practicing —as was my brother I sincerely feel at the time.
The girl found she had breast cancer after a year of marriage they are both in their late 30’s now. My bother has taken her to have all the treatments she needed at the time—however although the cancer seems to have disappeared the Doctors have always argued that it can come back any time.
The problem is that she is unable to give him children because of the cancer treatments and he wants a family like all his brother and sister’s have..
I told my brother before the marriage that he would face many difficulties marrying such a person but he said he loved her so we all kept quite.
I always argue –If he cannot have a family marry another girl or keep quite and get on with his life!!
What has happened over the years he has found the dean— but he is also become increasing angry/unhappy– perhaps because the girl may pass away, he may have no children and all his siblings( 2 girls and one boy)— he feels have broken his heart, especially me since I have told him the truth and do not support his wife.
I am lost for words please tell me what I should do!!
How should I advise him!!!
thanks
Hakan
Assalamu alaykum sister
please please could you help me, I am in such a complicated mess and have been for years and I don’t have anyone to talk to. Please could you email me.
Jazakallah khsir
Wa alaikum as salam sister, I have emailed you back. 🙂
assalamualaikum sister ….. i am married for one year and iam facing so much of problems both from my family and his … things have gotten really worse … i really need your help
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister, I have just replied to the email you sent me.
Assalamualaikum I m dealing difficult ly with my elder daughter who is 19year ,can u pls help me
Wa alaikum as salam sister, I have just sent you an email. If you didn’t receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamualaikum
I am in to depression due to issues in my marriage life for which I think I badly need someone to understand me and guide me
Please mail me
Assalmoalaikum…I am too much upset due to the hurdles in my marriage…kindly guide me how can I relax my mind…all the time I’m depressed sometimes I want to end my life…I’m so hopeless kindly help me out.
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister,
I have sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Comment… Good day to you all my name is mudassir Abdullahi everything of my life as been so difficult for both academic activities relationship financial status and always sad and confused but I thank God for my religeon please I will like for you to help me out from this journey I am into thanks
Thank you for your comment! I have just emailed you. If you did not receive my email, please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Please send me this book on My Email…if possible..
JazakAllah
I am not able to do that, but my free audiobook is available on youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRueNFLb-kk&list=PLX6VwlphDnIyhWm0c7VaEZrOk1nWAQjas
I’ve been married for 3 years. I Would like some counseling.
Dear sister, I read about your situation. I have sent you an email. If you did not receive it please email me howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
I Want a solution of my problem to get out of a sins. will you help me
I have emailed you sister.
Was in a haram relationship for 4 years. I had to end it but feel confused.
Salam,
There’s something’s I’m not sure about how marriage and divorce works and what are the ways to go about them. I’m having some troubles in my marriage due to my husbands prior marriage. Also do you offer marriage counseling?
Shukraan
Salaam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh. Pls help me. I am depressed and I really wish I didn’t start this journey called marriage. Pls help me. I want to be closer to Allah and be happy again.
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu. Thank you for your comment. I have emailed you. Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salaam, I have been feeling quite depressed lately and suffer from anxiety. Feeling really lonely.
Please feel free to send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. I hope you will feel better soon insha’Allah.
I would like some advise on marriage. I feel very depressed
Salaam, I have emailed you back.
please help… i have become so depressed due to my marriage. It hurts my soul.
I have emailed you dear sister
Need Muslim intervention to get out of horrible living conditions with adult son in his 20’s either mentally ill and willing to admit it but using marijuana and other means to treat himself and continue being with women’s who provide him with sick porn and other sick things he is addicted to . The man of the house my husband just as formality does nothing about it and kept blind eye since my sons started getting high on marijuana which led to porn addiction.
This man has done nothing to help the son, or guide him but he is allowing me and my 13 yr old daughter to suffer and live in this sick environment. He has enabled the son to be what he is today. We socialize with no one, have no family and live in isolation. My husband smokes inside the home and won’t stop his lousy ways of being an absent father and husband. I need a change in my life, I feel destroyed emotional and physically.
I have emailed you. If you did not receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamualaikum.. iam facing a big prblm in my life.. pesonal issues.. iam so tensed depreed.. it make problem in my health also.. i need a help.. can you help me??
Wa alaikum as salam. I have just sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Maaf I see I put on my msg I don’t want to view other option that was a spelling mistake I do want to view other options to fix my marriage
Brother, thank you for your comments. I have emailed you. If you did not receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
As salamu alaykum.
I want to be guided on Islamic manners of approach to the one that you are looking for his/her hand (marriage).
JazakumULLAHU khayra.
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu,
Here is an article that addresses your great question insha’Allah. Please let me know if you need more information
https://www.soundvision.com/article/7-etiquettes-of-seeking-a-spouse
Assalamu alikkum can i talk to you i am so much depressed
Wa alaikum as salam, I have emailed you.
Wa alaikum as salam, I have replied to your email.
Aslaam o alaikum,
i have been going through alot of personal issues i need to discuss with you. I have emailed you please reply as soon as you have time
JazakAllah
Wa alaikum as salam Sara, please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
PLEASE HELP ME DEAR SISTER I AM GOING THROUGH DIFFICULTIES IN DEPRESSION NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
I have emailed you brother
Assalamu alaikum.i want to talk to you sister
Walaikum as Salam, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salam sister, I don’t know what is wrong with me but I feel I’m depressed and I really need help because I have been feeling this way for a 2 years now. I don’t know what it is but firstly I used to be very good with my seen but now I hardly pray on time and sometimes I miss my prayers. And secondly I always don’t answer my phone& I have lost touch with a lot of my very close friends and some family. No matter how hard I try I just go back to being unhappy and having terrible thoughts. This is just a little from how I feel, and I really need to talk to someone so I can get better because it’s getting worse by the day
Walaikum as Salam dear sister, I have replied to your email
Assalam walekum,I am Muslim woman I met a guy 3 months back who was 29 and a Muslim,we used to talk everyday and he was very high in imaan,he was very honest and he was very clear that he want to marry now,we even told our families about it and we kept it halal and didn’t do anything wrong,he make me meet his mother and after that her mother without giving any specific reason says no to our marriage,he tried convincing her a lot but she is not getting agreed.This guy was so loyal that he upfrontly ask me to do istakhara at the beginning and everything was going smooth but suddenly this happened.I am really attached to this persona majorly because of his imaan and religious habit ,I would request you to please suggest me with some dua through which her mother gets agreed and we get married in halal way.
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister,
I am sorry to hear this happened. This is the Holiest month of Ramadan so while you are fasting and when breaking your fast, just make dua in your own language to Allah and ask him for what you want. The dua of the fasting person is most powerful.
Best wishes,
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh just wondering if I can have some guidance regarding my marriage if I have to seek divorce
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I have just sent you an email. If you did not receive it please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
I am concerned about my marriage and I don’t think I have been happy in this marriage. I’ve given my all and I don’t think I can take anymore and I need help and advice as much as I can to take the next step inshallah. I have emailed you already but I don’t know if you have recieved it.
Have sabr dear..May ALLAH give you guidance and relieve you from this hard time and difficulty ..Ameen
Salamz I have many psychiatrist problem Iam not happy in life , iam worried and sad always , my life is not beautiful, more than talking I think too much in life , i was depressed for two years in my life, my character from small days itself not good, when I was in my small days Ian afraid to face the life, I think negative all the time , I don’t think positive in my life , doctors tell that I have bipolar depression , I feel iam not updating my life, I always try to be alone , try to live alone, I try to live like an ancient old woman and not get modernized and updated every day to a modern world, my life is sad and in happy , I don’t know to live in Islamic way of life,iam always scared to live, I think about the death all the time and get scared for the death , I feel my brain is heavier , I don’t have friends , I don’t like to get socialized ,I always think of the life after death , iam scared to live in the society and there’s many more please email me and help me each day
Wa alaikum as salam, thank you for your comment. I have emailed you 🙂
I am struggling alot to improve my prayers and remove all the negative thoughts from my heart and mind. I need someone to talk to so that I don’t make my life miserable just by overthinking. I Wana feel contended.
Assalamu aalikum please will you be able to contact
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Mam please reply I had sent you an email with subject about dreams in islam
I have emailed you
Make Allah guide me through you…
Ameen
Asalam Alykum! My teen daughter has some serious sleep issues, she says she doesn’t sleep before 2 am please suggest some natural medicine, diet that could help her calm down she is also going through anger and anxiety. May Allah help you and help my daughter.
Walaikum as Salam dear, I have sent you an email now. If you did not receive it please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim @outlook.com
I am depressed coz my husband keep on telling about 2nd marriage and about my size. Please someone help me.
Dear Sister I have just sent you an email. If you do not receive it, please email me at Howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Hello sir/madam
My name is Muhammed Kabil from India, but currently am working in Qatar. I am 29 years old looking for a girl to marriage. In this scenario, my family members are asking me do the marriage, the girl who having family. But I have decided(niyyath) ten years before that the girl from a orphanage. So am totally confused with this situation. Can u give me the solution which does not affect my family members also me too ?
Dear brother, can you please explain to me the reason you do not change your decision and go with your family’s preference?
Sallam sister
Was wondering if you could advise me in regards to intimacy and being in an unhappy marriage. I’m struggling and really don’t know what to do.
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister, I have just emailed you. If you did not receive my email, just email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamu alaikum warahmathullah…
I am having a serious problem and i want a counselling for that. I dont want to disclose the problem here. I want personal counselling. Please help me…
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I have sent you an email. If you do not receive it please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalam o Alaikum Dear Sister in Islam
I have some issues relating to OCD Anxiety and Negative thinking and it’s getting quite tough to lead a normal life and I need some counselling if you could please help me out it would be great help.
Wa alaikum as salam, I have just sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
assalam walekum u all i am not success in life more stragal but not full fill my family dreams i fill very alon missing person in home
what i can do….
rafique shaikh pune india mustafannoor77@gmail.com
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Assalam Alaikum.
my name is Mrs Fatima Hassan, I would like you to get back to me with and if you do not mind i have a personal we can personally discuss about seen you as a muslim entrepreneur. here you can reach me (fhassan252@yahoo.com}
Sincerely
Fatima Hassan
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister Fatima. Please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. I will also send an email to you insha’Allah
AssalamAlaikum Sister.
I am feeling very overwhelmed with my marital life. I love my husband a lot, have a beautiful child with him, with another on the way Inshallah. But I find my husband to be extremely toxic emotionally and mentally. He is constantly belittling my family (only in front of me though), and expects them to keep doing favors for him. My family members have assisted him on numerous occasions, but once my husband gets what he has wanted, he again goes back to belittling them in front of me.
This bothers me deeply, because I find it unfair. I don’t know to balance my relationships positively. Additionally, when I begin to form any other relationships (with female friends or colleagues), he again begins to badmouth them, and injects toxic thoughts. I don’t know if it is because he wants to control all aspects of my life, or because he is insecure. He is a loner himself with not many meaningful relationships, and his constant negativity sometimes makes me feel very claustrophobic and isolated. I am at my wits ends, and do not know how to deal.
I would really appreciate your help sister,
JazakAllah.
Wa alaikum as salam Dear Sister,
Bismillah. I am glad you wrote.
I understood from your comment that you feel overwhelmed with your marital life. MashAllah you love your husband, have a beautiful child, and another on the way!
Unfortunately your husband is toxic emotionally and mentally. He constantly belittles your family and other people in your life.
Dear Sister, have you tried telling your husband how you feel? Perhaps you can write him a letter. Remember to use “I” messages so he understands how this makes you feel.
You can say, “Dear husband, I need to get something off my chest. I feel like you are always putting my family and friends down. I feel tired of your negative attitude towards them. This is not Islamic. In Islam, we are not allowed to talk about people behind there back. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said that backbiting is like eating the flesh of your dead brother. Can you please stop talking negatively about my family and friends?”
People who belittle others do it because they feel insecure. They belittle others because it makes them feel superior.
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Asalamo alaikum Sister.
I am so depressed after my divorce and need help. Kindly let me know if you are available.
Walaikum as Salam dear sister, I have sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salam how are you?I want same counseing beceuse suffer from mental health free counseling.
Wa alaikum as salam. I have emailed you. If you did not receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalam o Alaikum wrwb!
Dear sister I need ur guides my husband married thrice, I am his 2nd wife I have 1 son, since his 3rd marriage I am so depressed entirely and feeling happy, on the other I am trying to support him in every way ,but stiff after some days my feelings becomes negative regarding my husband plz help me out what to do in this situation to stay calm.
Wa alaikum as salam dear sis. I have sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salam sister,
I am struggling with anger issues and i unintentionally hurt everyone around me. This is making me very very depressed. I feel i am not fit to live around people.
Please help me. I am tired of hurting my family. Please guide me on how to deal with this
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister.
It’s wonderful that you want to control your anger. Here is an article and a video that I highly recommend. Please take a look at them and let me know if they are helpful. Bismillah
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KH3PHGjpo5Y&t=9s
5 Keys to Controlling Anger – YouTube
From VH1’s hit show, Family Therapy, and Spike Network’s show, Coaching Bad, renowned anger management specialist Dr. Christian Conte shares 5 keys to controlling your anger.
http://www.youtube.com
In regards to dealing with anger, the Prophet (pbuh) has offered us multiple ways to control our anger. The following excerpt is directly quoted from an article written by Sis. Farah Rahim Dadabhoy.
Several Cures for Anger from the Sunnah
1. To say “Audhu billahi minashaytan nirajim (I seek shelter in Allah from satan ,the rejected).” [Bukhari, Muslim]
The first cure for anger was to say ta’wwudh [ie “audhu billahi minashaytan nirajeem”.] This cure was given by the Prophet when a man showed anger in a situation where he was in front of the Prophet. The Prophet (saw) said “I know something that if he says it, his anger will go away and this is “audhu billahi minashaytan nirajeem.” What does this have to do with curing anger? Since anger comes from shaytan, you should seek refuge with Allah from the accursed shaytan.
2. If he is standing, then he should sit. If the anger fails to subside, then he should lie down. [Abu Dawood]
The second cure which is mentioned in the hadeeth mentioned by Abu Dawood is that if a person is standing, he should sit and if his anger doesn’t go away, then he should lie down. This is a very important cure for anger. The Scholars say that the reason that the Prophet (saw) gave this cure is because that when a person is angry and he is standing he is more capable of taking revenge whereas if he sits down, he will be less able and if the anger still does not subside, then he should lay down which will prevent him from acting out in a manner that he will regret later on.
3. A person should remain silent. [Imam Ahmad]
The third cure that was mentioned was not speaking at the time of anger. Ibn Rajab ® declared this to be a very great cure that Rasulollah (saw) has mentioned since it is in the state of anger that a person states a lot of things that he or she may regret later on. Sometimes, regretting one’s actions will not help since once words are spoken, the damage will take effect. For example, a person in anger may question Allah (swt) or raise an objection (may Allah (swt) forbid this). In anger, a husband may divorce his wife. In anger, people say things that destroy relationships and may take years to rebuild. Breaking one’s heart is very easy while joining the hearts is very difficult. Damaging a relationship can be done with one word while building relationships may, in some cases, take years. That is why it is best to refrain from speaking when in anger and to wait until the anger subsides and speak in a calm manner so that a person does not regret what he is saying.
4. Make wudhu. [Abu Dawood] 5. Make ghusl [Abu Nuaim]
The fourth and fifth cures were in regards to making wudhu and taking a bath. Both of these things have to do with using water because some narrations indicate that anger is from shaytan and shaytan has been created from the fire and the way to extinguish this fire is to use water whether it is in the manner of making wudhu or taking a bath. Someone’s anger may go away by just making wudhu and someone else might have to take a bath in order for his anger to subside. A person can see also through experience that when he is angry, his body is very hot so that the way to cool him down is to put water over his body either through wudhu or through a bath.
Another important point about remaining calm has to do with how to react to problems that Muslims as a community are facing. Here are some thoughts by Sis. Amal Darwiche, an Islamic Studies teacher for over 20 years:
“How much abuse did the Prophet (PBUH) suffer at the hands of his enemies, yet he never responded with rudeness or harshness. On the contrary, he was always the epitome of civility. Why? Because he always knew that in the end, Allah would take care of things–just like He took care of the Kaaba when Abraha came to destroy it. At that crucial moment in history, the Prophet’s grandfather explained to the baffled Abraha why he had come to retrieve his confiscated camels and not to defend the Kaaba because: ‘I am the lord of the camels, and the Kaaba has her own Lord who will protect her.’ Muslims have rioted and displayed much anger over many perceived slights recently. I am not saying they should not be offended, but why act out because of those offenses? How is it going to benefit us to show the world that we can get very very angry? We should always choose dialogue and peaceful means of protest rather than anger that dulls the senses like alcohol does. Anger is an intoxicant. It leads to rage which, in turn, can make us do things we may come to regret later. When faced with painful provocation, the Muslim should keep calm and remember that Allah is not insecure. Allah will prevail. We just have to be patient. I think that if everyone followed that rule, Muslims worldwide would be much happier, don’t you think?
We need to train ourselves to handle our frustrations in a peaceful way, not just on a personal level, but also on a collective, if not national level. We need to learn how to dialogue with people who do not see us in a positive light and how to resolve disputes positively, but we also need to come up with peaceful ways of protesting against things that offend us.”
I have same problems how to deal with this ??
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah, please I am Muhammed Shamsudeen Suraj a Ghanaian and I want to be trained as a islamic counsellor in order to help my community. May Allaah bless you and your family all. My whatsapp line is +233244433283
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, that is a beautiful goal and intention. It will be good to find some training in your area of living, insha’Allah. May Allah guide you to achieve your goal.
As Salaam Alaikum
Sheima, thank you for your support in this forum and all the resources you have been giving everyone, it is a true blessing for those that are helped by your words and actions.
I am a qualified Muslim Counsellor and member of the BACP practising in London but also available on Telephone for those outside of London(Links below).
For anyone who is need of Counselling, please get in touch. Support is available if you ask, sisters like Sheima are a great example of this. May Allah SWT reward you & increase your knowledge in this.
Wishing everyone good health.
Tasnima
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/tasnima-kamali-london-eng/447066
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/tasnima-begum-kamali
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister Tasnima,
Thank you sooo much for your encouraging words and for telling us about your services. I have put your websites on my Free Counseling Page as a paid option for those who would like skype counseling insha’Allah. May Allah bless you and your work.
As Salam alaikum
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I replied to your email
Aoa..I need so much advice I’m a lost Muslim a damaged soul I’ve searched so many sites just wanting advice Ive NOT FOUND A SINGLE ISLAMIC SITE THAT SEEMS USEFUL.until HOPEFULLY THIS ONE… Im hoping writing this feeling so helpless n lost..that someone can help me… Is it advice I want..Yes..but more than advice I need someone to talk to about my life situation..Somtimes a Muslim just needs a ear who will listen understand advise n just maybe just show that they care enough to help..Even if it’s in words right now I need that.. I feel like the lonliest person..I’m not suicidal but I’m so sad..
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I have sent you an email dear sister
asalam alikum warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sheima sister
Can i have ur whatapp number to ask questions
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I offer free counseling by email. Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamualaykum,
I am in a very difficult situation now as I have a manipulative father who has been emotionally abusive to me since I was a child and I have a mother who is codependent on him. My mother has a chronical disease and I have been taking care of her for over 5 years now. However, my dad’s manipulative ways have gotten a lot worse throughout the years and I felt like I couldn’t deal with it anymore. So I have now traveled to another country hoping to get some distance from them because I was very close to going into a dangerous depression a while back. But now my dad is trying to guilt me and using master suppression techniques to get me back into his “control”. Besides that, my mother’s mental condition is getting worse because of him. I don’t know what I should do. If I should go back to them and take care of my mom, or stay where I am and take care of me.
As my parents are elderly, I am afraid that if I don’t go back for a while I will be a bad Muslim or that I will make a great sin. But the environment at home was so dangerously suffocating that I couldn’t be myself and went into a breaking point in my depression.
I don’t have any Muslim friends or family members to talk to so I could really use some advice from you, sister!
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear Sis. Thank you for reaching out. I will email you now. If you do not receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Alsalam alykum I sent you an email two actually if we could be in contact it would be great I’m really in need of help
Walaikum as Salam dear , I have emailed you
Salaam alaykum Shelma
I’m in a massive mess to do with my imaan and I’m not sure I can fix it. I sent you email. It’s long but Plz reply soon
Walaikum as Salam, Sorry to hear of your hardship. I’m not sure I received your email. I am sending you an email now
Assalam walakaam my husband has divorced me and I’m in such a mess I dont understand any of this process and how it works regarding the 3 month waiting period.
Please help it’s making me very depressed
As Salam alaikum dear sis,
I am very sorry that you are facing divorce. May Allah give you peace and patience during this hard time. Here’s a video about divorce in Islam:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fbqSeQ7o-6Y
And here’s an article on coping with divorce:
https://productivemuslim.com/overcoming-divorce/
Assalalmualikum i sent you email pls check and reply
Wa alaikum as salam brother Anas,
I did not receive your email, but I just sent you an email. My email is howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salam
After divorce and job loss cause of current situation I need motivation someone who cares and listens just need advice to go through this.
Regards
Ruby
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Assalamu’alakium wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu sister,
I want to improve my relationship with my parents, especially ny father. I feel like I’ve been through a lot emotionally in the last 5-6 years. Even now, I think I am just suppressing my mental health issues. It took me a lot to get out here for advice. I hope this helps me, In Sha Allah
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sis, I just sent you an email. If you didn’t get it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Salam
I am a 24 year old muslim women living in Canada, when i was little i was bullied then ever since then i always tried making people like me or having freinds but idk when i was in grade 6 someone asked me if i asked a boy and before then i never thought about it but after that i always tried to seek love and affection from a boy. Alhamdullah Allah always saved me from doing haram noone eneded up liking me back , allah saved me from sinning greatly. i have lied and betrayed my parents and others trust trying to do that. I feel like a sinner i really want to stop now and just connect to Allah but idk how to. please help me i want to leave my sins and connect to Allah only.
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Assalamualaikum please email me as I am in need of advice. Jazak Allah khair
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I Emailed you. If you didn’t receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamu Alaikum sister, I have emailed you and I’m feeling very hopeless, please respond to me as soon as you can. Jazak Allah khair
Walaikum as Salam dear sis, I have replied to your email 🙂
Salaam alaikum dear sister I am a revert to Islam 1 also suffer from mental health problems please can you help
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, I just sent you an email. If you didn’t receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Please I need help 🥺 help me
Please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com
Assalamualaikum,
Sister, I tried to email you a few times but the provided email is not working.
Wa alaikum as salam dear, please try howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com