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I’m a mum of 2 beautiful children and soon to go back to work after my youngest. I try my best to look after my kids and my husband but often this seems inadequate. Obviously this makes me feel upset and small – asking for help from my husband who alhamdulillah tries his best to help but he says that he does too much and like I’m burdening him. He’s quite busy outside the house and I try to accomodate this but I feel angry at times… angry that he blames me for having to give up some extra work when it was obvious he was taking on too much… angry that my tiredness and efforts are barely recognised and I feel taken for granted. I’m looking forward to going back to work as I feel more appreciated there than I do at home and I feel sad about this. And I feel unable to be the ‘better person’ for my family – I have no energy left… no motivation…
I dont know how much of this is of my own making – my thoughts dictating this self pity which I hate. I lost my mother when I was 5yrs old and always fear I never had a good role model as a muslim wife and mother and I think this dents my confidence a lot. I feel I am my own obstacle – or I’m letting others dictate how I feel about myself… I dont know…
Jzk for your advice
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister Nasreen. Thank you for sharing your heart. I will send you an email right now, in shaa Allah. If you do not receive an email from me, please send me one at firstname.lastname@example.org
hi,i am an engineering student.i am a intelligent student since my school ,almost all tthe times i was atopper in my school and clg.but as the environment is not good at top colleges in city my parents have sent me to a smaller college ,i am not satisfied about it i always feel that if i would have been given an opportunity i would have achieved a lot in my life .secondly my parents dont allow me for jobs then wat must be the aim of my education.how can i serve islam through my engineering?
waiting for ur rply
As salamualaikum dear sister,
Thank you for your message. I hear you saying that you feel that your parents’ decisions have negatively affected your personal growth and progress in life. You are wondering how you can serve Islam with your education if your parents do not want you to get a job. These are important issues and I would need more information from you. For example, what is the reason that your parents are not allowing you to work in a job? What exactly do you dislike about attending a smaller college? I will also send you an email. If you do not receive an email, please email me at email@example.com.
I am going through health problems and money problems. I feel depressed and lonely. I don’t know what I want to do with my life.
Thank you for your honest comment. I just received your email today and in shaa Allah you can share your story and find a way out of your problems.
sala. I just wanted to ask u about a personal matter.
Salam dear sister, I just sent you an email. Please check your email. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org
Salam…i think i’m depressed..pls help me…
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister. I understand you are feeling depressed. Please send me an email at email@example.com
Assalam Alaykum, my fiance is having a very close male friend with whom she is very much emotionally attached. He has helped her through difficult times, and I dont doubt about her relationship with him. Now, whenever in our discussion, she mentions about him, I get a very insecure feeling inside me. I also have gone through very hard times and never seeked the help of a female friend for emotional support. I kept all my emotions inside me because I felt it was the right of my wife to have the key to all my emotional treasures. i too want to get married to a girl for whom I am the best and not second best. I want to remove the nail from the heel of my shoe rather than having extra layer of socks so not to feel the pain of insecurity and jealousy..
Walaikum as Salam brother, your feeling is totally normal and understandable. In my opinion, your fiancé should not have friendships with any males. This goes against the teachings of Islam. I am sorry to say this but unless she leaves her male friendship this is going to be a major problem in your marriage
I have huge obstacle I am trying tackle right now, I have been searching for some support from an outsider just to feel abit sane not that my family havent helped, they have been great Alhamdulillah. Please do email me in sha allah, I am in great need.
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I need help and guidance on a number of issues. Please give me some help and advice on a number of issues.
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Assalamu alaikum dear sister! You are doing a very great job ; may Allah bestow u rewad!
This Abdul Majid (27yr) and want to share you that I’m too much confused from past few years… plz read my mail!
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu, thank you for your comment, I have emailed you
Assalaam o Alaikum Sister,
Going to very hard time after i broke up with my gf. She already found a man in 3-4 weeks and got married. But im stuck there 🙁 How can i accept it and move on ?
If we were not meant to be together why we met and attached together ?
Wa alaikum as salam brother, I understand this is a difficult thing to face. I recommend that you watch this video on healing a broken heart from the Islamic perspective
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How do I ensure I don’t repeat a major sin I just committed, although the desire to do it is entrenched deep in my heart and excites me?
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Salam I have sent you an email, please answer
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AssalamAlaikum Sister! I hope you are well.
I emailed you almost a year ago regarding some problems. And I again want to start discussing about something.
So I saw a dream yesterday related to some situation in my life and I was reflecting on that which made me wonder about my current life condition…”I did that?”, “I have been doing these?”, “I have been behaving this way for the past one year?”
I think the way I have been behaving for a while are different from what I think is right or wrong. I have went through some very stressful days over the past years.
What would you suggest?
Wa alaikum as salam dear sister,
Thank you for your comment. It’s very important to live/ act according to your values/ what you think is right. When we don’t live according to our values, this causes lack of inner peace. Please email me at email@example.com for more discussion.
Hi my name is Annalisa Abdul I sent u an email I just wondered if u recieved it… thank u
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Hi my name is hakim I’m from Singapore after I bought your book named how to be a happy Muslim then I realise that a lot of things I didn’t know and u have motivate me to do all the good deeds and become nearer to Allah SWT I’m looking for your next book and do keep inspiring & motivating everyone
Thank you so much for your encouraging words! Alhamdulillah.
Assalam Alaikum Sister Sheima,
I have mailed you a few times before about some of my problems. Over the years I have observed and Alhamdulillah I have better understanding now.
I found this article which I find very similar to my situation but I think I am getting better.
I want to better deal with my problems. I want to be become better at coping. And I need this also when I am around people because that is when I lose control. How can I be positive and stay calm while putting my trust in Allah(swt)? Because I have difficulty in staying calm and patient when anything triggering happens and my mind stops working. Like, right now I came from outside and my head is aching a lot and I coudln’t really figure out what to do although I believe I am capable of dealing with such situations. (Much of my problems result in physical reaction to the triggers like looking away or really difficult in maintaining expressions.
Its been happening for over a year.
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Salam sister Sheima,
I have come to realize that I can’t be myself in front of some people. As a result I feel much difficulty dealing with them. For example, I shake whenever they cough or come near me. They have eventually understood this and purposely provoke these behaviors in me which I cannot control making it even more breathless and difficult for me. I hold my expressions tight but it breaks. These are people who work inside my house. They are just supposed to do their regular work but they bother about making it difficult for me. When things get very difficult for me, I sometimes reacted in pretentious manner and sometimes by shifting focus to something else.
As I write this, my mind cleared up a lot and my body feels at ease. Both because you said writing is better for my mind and because I am getting to share it with someone. I feel like I almost understood why this is happening to me and why they are behaving like this.
Please suggest something. My head is hurting because of this and I cannot sit relaxed inside my house.
Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister,
Thank you for your comment on my blog. I understood that you cannot be yourself in front of people.
I am glad that writing down your feelings is helpful.
My question is: how exactly do you wish you would act when they do these things?
If you know how you wish to act, you can visualize this in your mind and practice acting this way.
Also, are you able to just remove yourself from those people/ go to another part of the house?
Assalaamu ‘Alykum Warahmatullah. I am keen willing to be a better Muslim, but I am unable to awake at last night to do perform Tahazzud Salat.So, I use to pray salat as Kiamul Lail, not Tahazzud. How to able to awake in just time in this regard?
Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu,
Thank you for your comment. An easy way to pray tahajjud/ qiyam ul lail is to wake up 15 minutes before fajr prayer. You can do simply 2 rakat tahajjud, and then wait a few more minutes to do fajr prayer.
Many thanks for your prompt & constructive reply. Indeed, simply an advise is better than huge expending money.
Under the above circumstances, your advise is more better than any economical expenditures. May Allah live long you.
Wama Taufiqui illa Billah.
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You are very welcome, Alhamdulillah, Ameen for all of us
Assalaamu ‘Alykum Warahmatullah dear sister
I really need some advice about wearing hijab.
I have tried over the last three years but still struggling to wear it, I am at the stage where I don’t want to leave the house in fear on sinning by not covering my hair in public. I’m very tired of the constant battle that’s going on in my head in trying to wear hijab. I no longer want to participate in Community events or even mix with my own relatives.
I do wear loose and modest clothes.
I have been brought up in the west by Muslim born parents but they didn’t practice until reaching old age.
I hope you can assist me with my problem please.
Walaikum as Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sister, I just sent you an email. Thank you for your comment.
I’d like assistance on making a decision. I thought about going to a psychiatrist for this but, they would only give me counseling for mental health issues and building up my mental health. I want an opinion that takes into consideration religious ideology as well. I’ve made to many mistakes and hurt too many people. I don’t want to do so again.
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I lost the opportunity to love my wife and have a new start with Allah . I gave up too soon because eavesdroppers and stalkers and demons were attacking me . rather than repent my hardest , I tried helplessly to hide and was unable to be myself . I started drinking and sinned like my old ways and forgot too much . I ended up losing my fresh beginning and amazing love . I still believe in Allah and their mercy . I have almost lost faith because the punishments have been so severe , but I woke up insha Allah and remembered the love and chances to succeed that they gave me , unfortunately it is too painful and I feel like my life lessons should be used to benefit Islam , and that I owe the prophets so much for helping me understand . I tried to make my sins hex the enemy and huge patterns of problems still emerged . I have been lazy and disoriented , attacked and persecuted severely . I have found comfort in knowing that Allah knows everything that the evil one and their minions have done , that part of my work for Allah is through being attacked by the enemy even . I believe in their mercy still and that it is up to them to save me from punishment in the hereafter . I want to tell Muslim people more but I am scared of confessing that I was so misguided . I was able to quit drinking but turned back and keep losing hope in myself . I think I have tried to show Allah that I am suffering greatly , yet all I had to do was be myself and repent of everything the whole tine to gain their favoritism more and benefit Islam and my families . I have been lead astray yet I still believe in Allah and their messenger . if the punishment is in this world then perhaps I will be spared the punishment after death . Allah has given me so much and I made mistakes and was influenced by some kind of electronic feeling attacks , mind programming stuff . really bad . Allah knows everything the enemies do , so I tried to fight for my mind and the goodness , but so many hexes seemed to torment the world and I blame myself for some of it . I did not ever want to do wrong so much but it is known by Allah that man is weak and they are most powerful over everything and everyone . they placed my soul and willed my life of adventure and experience . never stop repenting and always remember the rules and do good ! alcohol removes reason and tricks the mind and seems to be used by the enemy to enhance their whispers . it has less medicinal value than it does to guide toward sin and failure in life , so do not drink Muslims ! insha Allah . may Allah protect Islam and the people who are on the straight path .
Ameen thank you for you comment 🙂