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Bismillahirahmaniraheem (In the name of Allah, The Compassionate, The Merciful)

Would you like to receive FREE, confidential counseling from a trained Muslim counselor about a personal issue or problem that you are facing? Just email me, Sheima Salam Sumer, at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. I will try my best insha’Allah to provide counseling and support.

90 Comments

  1. Mardiya Alhassan

    i want to be happy and forget about my problems,i also want to increase my faith in Allah and become a good muslim.
    please help me.

    Thanks, hope to hear from you.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I will email you dear sister, insha’Allah.

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    2. Amanda

      I need help I’m going through depression, please email me asap, 🙁 I’d me more than happy.

      Reply
      1. Sheima (Post author)

        I will email you today insha’Allah. If you don’t receive my email, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

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  2. Bilikis

    In response to problems that I had, my prayer has not been regular, I am trying to get back into praying regularly. I waould like some counselling to ensure I dont fall back into the non-praying mode and how to actively seek forgiveness for past lapses.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Dear Bilikis,
      Thank you for your honest and sincere comments. If you can, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. I will also try to email you. Insha’Allah I can provide some counseling to improve your life and prayers.

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      1. sadia

        Salam sister am going through anxiety, I think negatively, imaginations is what is going through my mind, how do I get my iman back, I easily get scared and a prolong imagination please help me think positively.

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        1. Sheima (Post author)

          Walaikum as Salam dear sister

          I understand that you’re going through a lot of Anxiety and negative thinking right now.

          I encourage you to do three practices right now that will reduce your anxiety insha’Allah

          1. start to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. It should be something that is fun for you and makes you sweat.

          2. Meditate for at least 10 minutes per day. Meditation is an amazing cure for anxiety and is extremely easy. All you do is sit in a quiet place and close your eyes and then make your mind busy with the present sounds going on around you. When you have a thought you just redirect your mind back to the present sounds around you. This helps you to become more of a leader of your mind. I encourage you to do some more Internet research about meditation and its benefits.

          3. Lastly, please keep a daily journal in which you write down your thoughts and feelings. This will increase your self awareness which is so important. Also in this journal every day write down things that you’re thankful for, so this is like a gratitude journal as well as a feelings journal.

          Are you sleeping OK at night dear sister? Often poor sleep is the root cause of our anxiety and mental problems.

          Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

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  3. Hadiyah

    As salaam alaikum, I have been so depressed lately. I have not been praying on a regular basis. Please I need help this feeling is not good for me. I have other things going on as well such as health issu es.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I hear your sadness, sister. I will send you an email today Insha’Allah.

      Reply
  4. zeenat

    Slms Sister

    Would you mind sharing your gluten free diet with me, or is there a book I could purchase

    Zeenat

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Salams dear Zeenat,
      I studied the gluten-free diet mainly from the internet. There are many books out there, but I have not read them. I also like the paleo diet. A great website for that is robbwolf.com. The gluten free diet is mainly avoiding wheat flour, wheat pasta, and bread. Best wishes for finding a way of eating that works for you!

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  5. ummibraheem

    Salams sister,

    I just want some advice on how to get my teenagers to pray regularly. They used to pray when they were younger,accompany my husband to the mosque. All theyre interested in now is watching movies online,playing games. I feel at my witts end,so helpless,like my advice is falling on deaf ears. Iam really concerned about their iman. We have tried to bring them up in an islamic environment,we spent several yrs in the middle east. plse advise jzk

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister,
      Thank you for your beautiful question and efforts for your children. I will also send you an email with more details, but here are some ideas:
      1. Talk to your kids about Allah (swt), about why we love Allah (swt), and why we pray 5 times a day. When we sincerely love Allah (swt), we are more motivated to obey Him and pray to Him. For example, explain that we pray in order to show our gratitude to Allah (swt) for everything He has blessed us with. Explain that our prayers are a protection from harm in this life as well as the next life. Explain that prayers cleanse us of our sins. Explain that our prayers give us a break from this fast-paced world and give us a chance to reflect on life more. Try to explain the benefits of prayers. Also explain that doing prayers is extremely important and that we do accrue sins when we miss our prayers. Have a heartfelt family discussion about this issue, but with respect for everyone, not blame.
      2. Try to prevent them from playing games/watching movies until they do their prayers. Of course, we don’t want them to dislike doing prayers, but just explain that because you love them you have to set limits so that their spiritual wellbeing is not sacrificed.
      3. Try to involve them in Islamic youth groups of some kind. Try to involve them in masjid activities. Being around people of Taqwa helps a lot.
      4. You may want to cancel your movie channels or your TV channels altogether. Although this may sound extreme, most movies today take us away from Allah swt and are very harmful for our heart.

      Hope this helps dear sister. If you don’t receive an email as well from me, please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

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  6. Anser ali ch

    Salaam,
    This is Reminder
    1) Study hard about Qur’an and learn its teachings

    2)You must study other religions,because when you will study other religions, you can examine the teachings of islam with other religions. and you can get a good reason to follow islam.

    3) You must study hard about scientific miracles in the Qur’an , especially this miracle that i made and i posted it on the youtube
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JxLB6_FFos&feature=youtu.be
    Because when you will understnad that Qur’an is right about science, then your believe on Allah will increase.

    I hope these tips will help you….Salaam

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      JazakAllah khair for your helpful tips 🙂

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      1. Anser ali ch.

        There is another tip, and that tip is most difficult to follow because it requires time and hard study to boost your eeman.
        and that is,
        1)Go to google,
        2)and search “Contradictions in Qur’an.
        And you will get 100’s of contradictions in Qur’an that anti-islamic website posts on their wenbsites. Now, the most strange thing is that , When you will read a contradiction there, you must search the answer of that contradiction. Or you must go to tafseer of Qur’an.
        Now the turning point is here, When you will get the answers of all 100’s contradictions,Your belief on Allah will increase. Because you will be sure that there is no contradictions in Qur’an….
        JazakAllah sister, thanks to you that you have provided us a good plateform to spread the message of islam.

        (If someone want to answer of any contradiction, please contact me on my email address .(Email123786@gmail.com)

        SALAAM And GOOD LUCK !

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        1. Sheima (Post author)

          May Allah (swt) bless you for seeking knowledge for His sake and sharing your tips!

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          1. Anser ali ch

            “Hidaya” only comes from Allah. , but He wants struggle from us.So whoever struggle to understand His deen, He is a merciful Allah. He will give you Hidaya ,Insha’Allah….

          2. Sheima (Post author)

            I totally agree, Alhamdulillah.

          3. Masum Ahmed

            Sheina I saw you post (dream if the Prophet Mohammed) on youtube please tell me the full story (your entire dream)

          4. Sheima (Post author)

            Brother I have sent you a facebook message with the story. Bismillah.

  7. Anser ali ch

    Jazak Allah sister …..

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  8. Malika

    Asalaam Walaikum Wa Ramatullahi Wa Barakatuh sister, I’m in need of counselling asap. Please let me know if you are able to help. Jazakhallah Khair.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum As Salam wr wb Sis. Malika, yes, please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com. Wa iyaa kum.

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  9. hanah

    Assalamu alaikum sister,

    I have been having a lot of anxiety lately about Islam and hell and all of that. I have this fear that what if I Allah (SWT) won’t let me go to Jannah? What if what I’m doing is not good enough for Jannah. Our family we pray, but not five times a day. My dad smokes and he doesn’t fast. We don’t pay zakah, my mom and I don’t wear the hijab. I feel like we are so far from being good muslims. I try to pray more often and I read the Quran and watch islamic videos to strengthen my Iman and I volunteer for good causes, but I feel like I’m not doing enough. Also I really want my parents to strengthen their Imans too. I want my dad to quit smoking and for us all to pray more and pay zakah. I want to tell my parents how I feel but I’m really scared to because we don’t talk about sensitive topics like these in our house.

    Every time I think about all of these sins that we are committing it just breaks my heart.

    And also may Allah forgive me for saying this but sometimes when I think of death I get this thought that “what if Islam isn’t real? what if Allah doesn’t exist? what if there is no jannah” I know I shouldn’t think this way but I can’t get these thoughts out of my mind.

    I’m so scared of death. I feel like life is just flowing right past me so quick and I can’t do anything to stop it. I feel so hopeless.

    Please help me.

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wa barakatu dear Sis. Hanah, thank you for your honest comment. I admire your desire to be a better Muslim, MashAllah. I am going to send you an email. If you don’t receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

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  10. TS

    Dear Sister,
    ASA
    I emailed you above. Please may you help me. I am going through the hardest time of my life.
    Please help.

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      WAS Brother,
      I received your email and will get back to you soon insha’Allah. JazakAllah for contacting me.

      Reply
  11. rain,bow

    Selamun aleykum Dear Sister Sheima,
    I’m a sister from Turkey and I need to read your books immediately but I don’t know how I can get them. I also need to communicate with you with my e mail address about which steps muslims can take who try to be as conscious as possible while travelling on the roads of our inner worlds and the outside world, the universe, and trying to decode to “Read” the encoded signs, the ayets throughout this life. This is as vital as breathing you know too as you look to the history of humanbeing, and to people all around the world today. It’s because of this need that Allah enabled us to communicate on this page. Thanks Allah for this opportunity. I send my thanks to you Sister Sheima for the profound, important and heart touching information you share with us. I’m waiting for your answer..

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikukum as salam dear Sister, Thank you for your very kind and wise words. I will send you an email today. My book is available on Amazon.com in both the electronic and hard copy forms. It’s a pleasure to meet you!

      Reply
  12. rashida

    Hi Assalamu Alaikkum Warahmathullahi Wabaraqathuhu. I am looking for some advice in my marriage. I am 4 months pregnant and I’m depressed and my husband can’t understand what I am going through. Sometimes the arguments become a fight. I feel really hard to cope as I’m relocate to live with my husband. Pls respond to me soon.

    Jazza Allah

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullahi wabarakatatuhu dear sister,
      I just sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  13. saeed

    Assalamu alaykum sister sheima i need some advice about this up coming Ramadan.

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  14. Ameena Tarannum

    Salam. I need your help. Badly. i need someone’s help. E-mailing you my problem, please help.

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  15. ctnira

    Life has been very difficult and stressful everyday pretending to be strong like nothing has never happened but inside my world started to crumble it make me scare cause I’m my teens pillar.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Yes a lot of people can relate to what you are saying, ctnira. Feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com if you would like more support insha’Allah.

      Reply
  16. Susan kenning

    Assalam alaykum. I am a British Muslim living in Egypt. My Egyptian husband has cancer and hepatitis C, cirrhosis and HE (hepatic encephalopathy) which affects brain function. He was in hepatic coma 2weeks ago. We were fine together as he came out of the coma, he even wanted us to go for umra together. Then a small incident made him think I am his enemy, that I do magic, and he wants to separate me from our 7 children and threatens divorce. I see this as the work of the devil and I seek refuge in allaah with prayer and athkar. Allah is the helper. My children are losing patience and want me to find a solution…I need to understand this illness more so I can help him back to reality…any advice? May Allah reward you, Assalam alaykum.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sister Susan. I understand that you are going through a difficult time with your husband, who has many health problems and now sees you as an enemy. Yes you are right that shaytan is probably involved in this and that the only help is from Allah (swt). Please continue to pray to Allah (Swt) and call on Him by His Beautiful Names, especially Ya Wadud (The Source of Love). Please refer to some specific duas from my recent article: http://productivemuslim.com/adhkar-to-unlock-barakah/
      For more support please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

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  17. shaji

    Assalamu alaikum

    Iam shaji from india 47 yrs old( male). last one year iam suffering toomuch anxiety disorder. mainly because of fear of death, and fear of health. acutally i have no health related issues, except bp which i got due to bp for the last 6 months. any sad things hearing i will be verymuch tensed and worried. so please help me and give some remodies to overcome for the above.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Walaikum as Salam Br Shaji, I understand that you feel afraid of death and illness. You feel worried when you hear sad things. The best remedy for such problems is to improve your relationship with Allah swt. Please try to pray at the masjid more and ask Allah to help you with these fears. All help is from Allah.

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  18. Siraj unnisa

    Issue is personal have to discuss one to one only

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  19. Depressing Girl

    I want a solution to my problem, i have emailed you a message, i couldnt publish it here so…

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I just emailed you back dear sister.

      Reply
  20. zenen

    Assalam aleikum ukhty, I need some one to talk to at the earliest preferring a female counsellor, am really in a bad situation and very stressful and depressed, plz email me at the earliest

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Walaikum as Salam dear, I tried to send you an email yesterday. Please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  21. Naz

    Sheima please do reply yo my query too….many thanks

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I replied dear sister.

      Reply
  22. Portia Thenjwayo

    Assallam alaikum

    I’ve been in islam almost 2 years now. I’m in a situation whereby I sometimes get confused. I’m married and have two kids,my career is in art. I work for an NGO as a facilitator and office coordinator. I also run a small business which its growth is really slow and I find myself stressing a lot. Today as I’m writing this, I’m feeling so guilty that I’ve sent my child to school sick. My day for family responsibility are finished and sick leave as I was admitted to the hospital not so long ago.
    In all this; as much as enjoy my work, these are my frustration:
    I’m unable to perfom my prayers regularly.
    I get home tired, not able to care for my kids as I want to
    I have no choice but to work because my husband earns less and we unable to survive with his salary alone.
    I at times feel like job blocks me from doing what is right as a muslim, mother and wife.
    The worst is the masjid is not too far but I’m not allowed to attend Jumma and am always questioned about it.
    And the other worst is my child who sick and at school now, I just want to cry just thinking about it.

    I feel if I can run my own business fulltime I’ll have more flexibility. I’m worried that it may be hard om family as I’m not taking care only of my own but also my mom and my nephews(parents unemployed). but I’m scared to take that chance.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister Portia. Thank you for your comment and courage in sharing your story. If you can, please send me an email at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com and then I will try to provide counseling and support insha’Allah.

      Reply
  23. syed ibrahim

    sir assalamu alaikum i have mailed u please reply me

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      wa alaikum as salam I have just replied back to you

      Reply
  24. Khalida

    Salam alikom can you plx help me i am possessif and jalous since my pregnancies i feel really bad lost confidance my husband didnt help me he told reflexions about mt weight and when i see him looking other girls i am really hurt. It is a nightmare . Thanks

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam dear sister. I just sent you an email. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  25. vahitha

    asalaam walaikum wrwb
    I need help Nd I am really confused…. pls email me at earliest possible

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam sister, I did email you.

      Reply
  26. Fervin

    I am greatly depressed

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I am sorry to hear that–I sent you an email a few days ago. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  27. Lena

    Assalaamu alaikum sister,

    I’m feeling depressed and ungrateful at the fact that I am not married and don’t have a job in my field – also that I am living at home with my parents despite the fact that I wanted to live in another country. I should be happy that I started praying and wearing hijab and reading Qur’an and taking classes but I feel isolated and like I miss socializing and being with others and I can’t help but feel like I really don’t want to be in my situation. How can I be more grateful? I have also given up on trying to manage my finances and have accumulated a huge debt. I have no desire to work and have fallen into laziness thinking when I get married my husband will take care of it or I will get a job when I move to live with him even though I have no husband in sight. Help! Thank you
    Thank you

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam dear Sister, thank you for your honest comment. I plan to email you very soon with my thoughts. Feel free to also email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  28. Angie

    Asalam wa Alaykum sister,
    Well my situation is i converted to islam in 2011 but i couldn’t really practice my religion due to my job and as the provider for my family i have 5 children and was a single mother for a long time, i met my current husband in 2008 and we have been together ever since we just recently stated living together since 6/2016 and it has been a constant struggle in our relationship my children are not Muslim as i mentioned i converted all my children have moved out except for my younset he is 11 i besically feel like giving up on my marriage i feel so depressed at times and i question my self and my faith islam is about unity family obediance.and mines has fallen apart my childen are not bad they are just culture. I am no saint my self we have been born and raised here it was easy for me to adapt and follow my new religion i was cathlic before i converted and my children and all my family are all Catholic we had always been so united . I dont now what to do anymore i dont pray anymore i feel like im loosing my self there is really no one i can really talk to i feel ashamed to even talk to any of the sister i have isolated my self from everyone. My husband and i argue all the time , i just feel like giving up on our marriage.

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam dear sister. Thank you for your comment. I have just sent you an email. If you didn’t receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  29. Faheema

    Assalamu alikum warahmatulillah wabarakatuhu.
    Sis i would like to learn islamic psycology to help my family and friends. Can u teach something. May allah accept ur sevice and grant u jannatul firdause ameen

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wabarakatu dear sister,

      Thank you for your comment. Please refer to these videos of mine:

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTM-S1YvkDs&t=1287s

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRueNFLb-kk&list=PLX6VwlphDnIyhWm0c7VaEZrOk1nWAQjas

      Reply
  30. Fariha

    Could i discuss something please urgently?

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    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Dear sister, I have sent you an email. Please feel free to email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  31. HAK

    aoa sister..need ur guidance relating a few personal issues..have mailed u aswel..would be thankful if u r available

    Reply
  32. Laiba

    aoa,
    I’m going through a problem and it’s causing me anxiety and emotional stress. can i get your help on that ?

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam, I understand you are experiencing anxiety and stress due to a problem. Please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com and I will try to provide some support insha’Allah.

      Reply
  33. Zakiyya

    Assalamualaikum

    Respected Sister, I have sent you an email regarding my troubles and I am in desperate need of guidance. I am hopeful that you will respond.

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Walaikum as Salam dear sister, I have emailed you back today.

      Reply
  34. Grace

    Salaam
    My name is Gaironisa I would like to know if getting married inside prison is it allowed in Islam,kanalla advised me

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Walaikum as Salam sister Gaironisa, as long as you have at least 2 witnesses to your marriage then it’s allowed. Best wishes!

      Reply
  35. Seskia

    Assalamualaikum Wr Wb

    I need ypur help. My husband is having an affair but he is not admitting it. I found condoms, pictures and facetime track but he is still not admiting it.

    this is my second marriage, i really need to think through it. Please help

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam wr wb dear sister, I sent you an email today. If you did not receive it, please email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  36. khaleel

    assalamualikum.. i am addicted to bad things i really need counceling to get my life back on track. please help me to get my life back on track.

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  37. Muhibbul Anam

    I emailed you about my issue please reply asap !!!
    I need help !!!!

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I emailed you back dear sister.

      Reply
  38. Hadia

    I am going throght depression anxiety and loniless I want a Islamic guidance and counseling plz help me

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      I emailed you back to dear sister.

      Reply
  39. Somaya

    Assalaamu aleikoum dear sister Sheima,

    I desperatly need help, counselling, advice about how to cope with a specific personal situation of mine. It makes me depressed, confused and having negative thoughts and ill fellings towards a specific person that is jealous of me. How to deal with a jealous person that is family and lives under the same roof? This person has narcissist traits and has made me sick for so many years.

    Jazaaki Allahu khairan

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Wa alaikum as salam Sister, I have emailed you just now.

      Reply
  40. Amal Zafeer

    Assalaum Alikum. I have been feeling very irritated, frustrated and sad for pass month. However I do feel like my reasons for that are very silly but I can’t seem to bring myself to be encouraged to do anything. Frankly, I feel quite miserable. I don’t think it’s extremely but I do feel disturbed. I don’t wanna talk to my parents about it and I am really hoping you could help me. May Allah bless you 🙂

    Reply
    1. Sheima (Post author)

      Walaikum as Salam dear, I have just sent you an email. You can also email me at howtobeahappymuslim@outlook.com

      Reply
  41. Rosa

    Salam sister
    I have sent you an email. Please help me

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    1. Rosa

      Sister please help me out.

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      1. Sheima (Post author)

        I think I have emailed you back sister. Looking forward to your reply

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        1. Rosa

          I have replied sister.

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          1. Rosa

            Thank you so much for your replies sister! Please reply to my new email.

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